Things I’m Expected To Do for Cis People in Return for Their Not Hating Me: An Angry List

radtransfem:

After seeing bidyke’s remix of sanctimonioussilentagony’s list, I thought I’d sketch out the beginnings of one for transsexual folk. Improvements welcome:

• Answer any and all questions about my body and my medical treatment no matter how invasive
• Answer questions about my partner’s sexuality
• Listen to their stories about other trans* people they know
• Listen to them talk and give them my opinions on trans* celebrities
• Celebrate with them all fictional depictions of trans* folk, no matter how misrepresentative or outright cissexist
• Congratulate them on their correct use of names and pronouns
• Obey when they refer to me incorrectly and tell me that I “must forgive them”
• Smile sadly and thank them when they tell me how brave I am
• Use the accessible toilet and be grateful
• Stay silent if they misidentify me as gay and cis
• Sympathise with their excuses for their and others’ cissexism
• Approve their use of the word ‘tr*nny’
• Act ‘gendered’ enough but not too ‘gendered’
  • note: these prohibitions overlap with no middle ground
• Never, ever, express or articulate any kind of sexuality
  • this one may be trans*-woman-specific?
• Stay quiet when cis-specific issues are being discussed
• Never raise trans*-specific issues
• Never get angry or upset about cissexism and transmisogyny
• Never call out cis people on cissexism and transmisogyny
• Not mention specific legal protections for transsexual people to my employers
• Only be transsexual without having any other identities
• Silently excuse myself from activities and events which structurally exclude me
• Do so without raising any attention or being noticed by anybody
• Not hang out with too many other trans* people or seek trans*-only space
• Never repost Asher’s “Die Cis Scum”
• If I die, die quietly, and never blame them.

(via hugteeth)

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   Still not sure if I’m trans, but very poignant!

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    that die cis scum post…gotta reblog it.

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    I’ll add “Express gratitude when someone calls you “the best of both worlds”“

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    Ahhh oh my god this list just keeps getting better! I am so joyful about being in a community with people who make...

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    Cis people suck… Also, if you have a problem with “die cis scum” and don’t understand the thought process behind it then...

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